I have had the privilege to listen to quite a few couples since I began practicing as a therapist in 2006. One of the most common problems I've noted is that individuals in unhealthy relationships tend to love selfishly.
Selfish loves comes from the perspective of, "What can you do for me?" or "How can you make me feel better?" Selfish love prioritizes the needs of the individual over the needs of the relationship.
Successful marriages are grounded in compassionate love. Compassionate love prioritizes the needs of the relationship, i.e. the needs of both people. People who love compassionately are not satisfied with focusing only on their needs. Compassionate lovers simultaneously prioritize the needs of both themselves and their partner.
Compassionate lovers ask the question, "What is it that we both need for us to both feel fulfilled in this relationship?" and "How can we work together to make those desires our reality?"
A compassionate lover recognizes that if both partners give the relationship what it needs to thrive, then the relationship will reward them with a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment that cannot be easily matched.
If you and/or your spouse is/are experiencing challenges with loving compassionately, contact the office of Imagine Me Counseling, LLC. We are successful, results-driven therapists who are passionate about helping our couples build marriages worth fighting for.
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Life in St. Louis is more stressful than it has been in a long while. The emotional tension in our neighborhoods, homes, schools, offices, and places of worship is tangible. I believe that we all recognize that we are living in a concerning time in our city's history, and St. Louis needs each of us more than ever to help her heal.
As always, if you are experiencing challenges with prioritizing your self-care, don't hesitate to give Imagine Me Counseling a call. We are here for you!
Are you purpose driven or provision driven? If you wake up looking for a new way to impact the world, your family, your community, then you are purpose driven. If you wake up looking for a new way to make money, then you are provision driven. There is definitely a space where these two drives intersect, but the people that I have seen be most successful in life are those that are purpose driven.
People who are driven by purpose tend to have a desire for success that is supernatural. They want their projects and programs to succeed because of the impact they will have on others and not just the impact they will have on their pockets.
Yet, we all have to pay bills, eat, live, etc. But, this I know for sure; if you pursue purpose, provision will follow. If you do what it is that you are put here to do, then I know with a certainty that the resources you need will become available. The doors you need to open for you, will open. The people that you need to speak with will introduce themselves to you. The platforms that you need to speak from will be accessible to you.
But the key is that you have to pursue purpose above provision. Be purpose driven, and the rest will follow.