Building a profitable private practice is an intentional process that requires persistence and dedication. Most businesses fail because the owner is not aware of basic steps that have to be taken to build the profitable private practice. Below are the top five steps that I have found to be the most beneficial in building my practice. I hope you find them equally as helpful. I know that you're busy building your profitable practice, so I'll keep it short and to the point.
1. Find a Possibility Model
I first heard this concept from a colleague regarding individual identity development. But, the more I repeated it to myself the more I realized that I had been applying this to various aspects of my life for a while, including developing a profitable private practice. A possibility model is someone who has a practice who, on some level, is doing what you would like to do with yours. A possibility model serves as a template of sorts. If you have never seen anyone be successful in your line of work, it will be difficult (not impossible) for you to imagine your success. Possibility models lay footsteps in the sand for you to walk in. Their diligence in pursuing their goal should provide guidance that you can learn from in pursuit of your profitable private practice.
2. Don't Overthink Your Business Plan
While business plans are important, I have witnessed many potential business owners unable to move beyond the planning stage. Consider your business plan a living breathing document. If you are building a brand that evolves with the needs of society, your business plan will never be finished. As society evolves, so too will your business plan evolve.
3. Don't Allow the Fear of Failure to Stop You
You've heard it before, and now you will hear it from me, "Don't be afraid to fail!" You are building something new, and sometimes new ventures fail. But, that doesn't mean that your new business will fail! You can be stagnant in life because you are afraid of failing, or you can move forward focused on your potential success. Also, remember that successful businesses experience moments of failure. The goal during those times is to learn from and grow through those experiences.
4. Do Something
Do something! Do anything! Put forth constant action to bring your profitable private practice to pass. A significant mistake I see entrepreneurs make is they simply stop building. Granted they stop for different reasons, but its typically because their business isn't doing what they want it to do when they want it to do it. There really is a science to this. Track your work. Keep a record of what does and doesn't work. All information is valuable. But, you can't have information about what is/isn't working if you are not doing something. So, do something. Even if its just 15 minutes a day - you work the heck out of those 15 minutes. Just do something!
5. Get an Accountability Partner/Group
There will be days that you wake up and you will literally breathe, eat, and drink your profitable private practice. Sometimes I am so engrossed in my business that it is 7pm before I remember to shower. It happens! But, there are also those days when you just don't want to be bothered. A day off here and there is fine. Everyone needs a break. But, then there's those times where you can go for quite a while and do absolutely nothing.
Those extended periods of times without working on your business are dangerous and can result in the death of your practice. During those moments, you need someone who is willing to hold you accountable for moving your business forward. Set aside regular time with someone you trust to discuss your progress on your business. This person/group should have a willingness to ask you the hard questions you need to hear when they realize that you haven't followed through on building your practice. Their presence in your life should provoke you to action on your business plan. There should be a huge part of you that is unwilling to show up to your accountability meeting with no progress on your profitable private practice.
If you find that you need a bit of assistance with these five tips or any other aspects of building a successful private practice, give me a call at 314-744-9027. I am more than happy to be the accountability partner who helps you grow a profitable private practice.
I have had the privilege to listen to quite a few couples since I began practicing as a therapist in 2006. One of the most common problems I've noted is that individuals in unhealthy relationships tend to love selfishly.
Selfish loves comes from the perspective of, "What can you do for me?" or "How can you make me feel better?" Selfish love prioritizes the needs of the individual over the needs of the relationship.
Successful marriages are grounded in compassionate love. Compassionate love prioritizes the needs of the relationship, i.e. the needs of both people. People who love compassionately are not satisfied with focusing only on their needs. Compassionate lovers simultaneously prioritize the needs of both themselves and their partner.
Compassionate lovers ask the question, "What is it that we both need for us to both feel fulfilled in this relationship?" and "How can we work together to make those desires our reality?"
A compassionate lover recognizes that if both partners give the relationship what it needs to thrive, then the relationship will reward them with a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment that cannot be easily matched.
If you and/or your spouse is/are experiencing challenges with loving compassionately, contact the office of Imagine Me Counseling, LLC. We are successful, results-driven therapists who are passionate about helping our couples build marriages worth fighting for.
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Life in St. Louis is more stressful than it has been in a long while. The emotional tension in our neighborhoods, homes, schools, offices, and places of worship is tangible. I believe that we all recognize that we are living in a concerning time in our city's history, and St. Louis needs each of us more than ever to help her heal.
As always, if you are experiencing challenges with prioritizing your self-care, don't hesitate to give Imagine Me Counseling a call. We are here for you!
Are you purpose driven or provision driven? If you wake up looking for a new way to impact the world, your family, your community, then you are purpose driven. If you wake up looking for a new way to make money, then you are provision driven. There is definitely a space where these two drives intersect, but the people that I have seen be most successful in life are those that are purpose driven.
People who are driven by purpose tend to have a desire for success that is supernatural. They want their projects and programs to succeed because of the impact they will have on others and not just the impact they will have on their pockets.
Yet, we all have to pay bills, eat, live, etc. But, this I know for sure; if you pursue purpose, provision will follow. If you do what it is that you are put here to do, then I know with a certainty that the resources you need will become available. The doors you need to open for you, will open. The people that you need to speak with will introduce themselves to you. The platforms that you need to speak from will be accessible to you.
But the key is that you have to pursue purpose above provision. Be purpose driven, and the rest will follow.
Today the entire world will be gazing at the sky in hopes of seeing a once in a lifetime event...a total eclipse. From what I hear it will be a sight to behold.
When speaking on the eclipse at the American Museum of Natural History, famed astrophysicist Dr. Neil deGrasse Tyson said, "Experience this one emotionally, psychologically, physically." Dr. Tyson said that...about an eclipse.
His words encourage us to be in the moment and allow ourselves to fully engage with this once in a lifetime solar experience. I hope that everyone who reads this blog post is able to do just that.
Put on your safety shades and stand at the highest point, watching the moon spectacularly eclipse the sun. Take in the full magnitude of the sun's light in a way that you never have before. Experience the full glory of our universe "emotionally, psychologically, physically." Allow yourself to be fully present in that moment.
Now imagine that Dr. Tyson said those words about your life, "experience your life emotionally, psychologically, physically."
Imagine what your life would be like if you allowed yourself to fully experience this one...this life...emotionally, psychologically, and physically. What would your life be like if you truly lived it and not just existed in it? What would your life be like if, instead of running when challenged you fully embraced challenges?
What if, just as you will stand boldly facing the once in a lifetime event of the solar eclipse, you remember that YOU are a once in a lifetime event and live your life as such. I wonder how different your life would be?
I think I have to schedule sex...oops I mean date night(s)(s)(s) this week!
I know that sounds ridiculous. The thought of scheduling sex, I mean, date night makes me a bit uncomfortable. But, the thought of mommy and daddy time with my hunk-of-a-husband helps me to work through any discomfort I might have.
See here's the thing... once upon a time I lived in the land of Rest & Relaxation. In this land I had three children: Ryan II (17), Michael Joshua (13), and Raven Michelle (9). While they weren't grown, they were old enough to be by themselves so that I and my hunk-of-a-husband (that's his real name y'all) could have weekly date nights.
All of our date nights were extremely fun, but one took the cake. That's when we moved from the land of Rest & Relaxation to the land of #IGot4Kids. The land of IGot4Kids is great. Its a lot of fun. I'm constantly surrounded by beautiful people, and the laughter never ends. But, in the land of IGod4Kids, there is very little sleep, as kid #4, Brandon Alexander prefers his first feeding of every single day to be at 3:00am. This new land leaves very little time for unscheduled events, and the exhaustion of doing your part in this land will often result in you collapsing into bed. This is very different than the land of Rest & Relaxation where the quiet nights lulled you to sleep.
This busy, hectic place requires me to prioritize and respect my date/sex life so much that I literally put it on my calendar. There's sooo much more I could share with you about this new land, but suffice it to say if you are also in this land, or if you live in one of our neighboring communities (#IGot3Kids, #WeHaveCrazyJobs #IHelpEverybody, #NobodyHelpsMe, or #WhatIsSleep) and you want to make sure that you continue to have a healthy sex life...just for a little while... you may want to put date/sex night(s)(s)(s) on your calendar.
It won't be like this always...it shouldn't be like this always...but while it is remember that sex is too important to the health of your marriage to forget about it!
With us living in a society that is composed of homes in which both spouses working a full-time job is the norm, it can be difficult to spend any time with each other. As much as I love my husband and he loves me, we can go from 9am to 5pm without hearing each other's voice. Then comes the kids! Like most couples - we text each other throughout the day, but there is something about being in the physical presence of someone who truly loves and adores you! It is not uncommon to find us hiding on our deck after dinner and yelling at kids to go away because your mom and dad are off duty! We need that time with each. No matter how short it is, it helps us to be the best version of ourselves!
Spending time with someone who loves you can rejuvenate your spirit in a way that nothing else can. I know that our busy lives can make it difficult, but we all have to make sure to prioritize our time together.
I have read several pieces that provide an exact amount of time that spouses should spend together. On average the writers recommended somewhere between 15-20 minutes of time together daily.
While I do agree that we should spend time together daily, I encourage you to ignore the clock on the wall and focus more on the quality of the time. If in the moment your focus is on:
Make sure to set aside time daily to connect face-to-face with each other.
Don't focus on the quantity of time, just focus on the quality of time.
As always, Imagine Me Counseling is here to help you build #AMarriageWorthFightingFor!
I promise this will not be a long post (mostly because I have a 3 month old who is staring me down as I work, and I'm sure tears over the binky are imminent). But, I wanted to make sure that I share this brief, but poignant message, "Protect Your Marriage."
Protecting your marriage requires that both partners are willing to prioritize the needs of the relationship over the selfish needs of the individual. There are some basic needs that must be met for a marriage thrive:
The majority of the couples that I have worked with who entered counseling contemplating divorce, were typically struggling with a marriage that was vulnerable in one of the above areas.
Protecting your marriage requires consistent effort over time. This consistent effort must be paired with the constant presence of love, compassion, and empathetic understanding. If this sounds like it can be hard from time to time, then you have a clear understanding of the effort that it takes to protect your marriage. But, 17 years of marriage has taught me that it gets easier and sweeter over time.
If you find that you need a bit of help protecting your marriage, please do not hesitate to pick up the phone (314-744-9027) and give us a call. We are more than happy to help you build a marriage worth fighting for.
Beyonce’s “Lemonade” album provided an unexpected glimpse into the challenges of her marriage. As I listened to this raw expression of love and pain, I was in awe of the many lessons that women can learn about the emotional effort that it takes to build a marriage worth fighting for. Through music and passion, Beyonce explicates concepts that I have found to be priceless in my role as marriage counselor and wife.
While the lessons are myriad, for the sake of time, this particular blog will solely focus on seven of the concepts that Beyonce has shared with us about Building a Marriage Worth Fighting For.
If you believe that your marriage will escape challenges, then you do not truly understand marriage. There will be multiple times that you consider giving up and walking away from your spouse all together. Your relationship will have its share of problems, and yes, some of these problems will be heartbreaking. But, if both spouses are willing and dedicated to working through it, they can overcome these obstacles together.
2. A marriage can heal after infidelity.
Here’s the startling truth, over 94% of marriages are impacted by some version of infidelity; physical, emotional, and/or cyber. It is more common than anyone is willing to discuss. Infidelity can have an impact that requires spouses to grieve the loss of what they thought their marriage would be. Yet, despite its devastating impact, it is possible for a marriage to heal from and through infidelity.
3. Talk to someone about the challenges that you are going through.
The entire Lemonade album was Beyonce’s raw attempt to communicate about her experiences. So often women suffer in silence. They receive little to no support with the concerns that they are facing in their relationships. Women have been acculturated to believe that talking about our pain is problematic. However, it is the silence that multiplies our pain. Please find a safe person to speak to about your concerns and get help. We have to learn to speak up about what we are going through and what we need. There is power in developing a strong, loving, and caring support system.
4. Trust your own voice
Too often women’s voices have been disempowered by society and family. Unfortunately, women who speak up are often deemed crazy. What is even more concerning is that Black women who speak up are often described as an angry bitch. Ask yourself, what’s worst being unhappy so that people won’t label you crazy; or trusting your voice and being happy despite people periodically confusing your passion for anger. Whichever you choose, the choice resides in your decision to use or not use your voice.
5. Speak up about what you need to remain in this relationship
Unfortunately, it is not uncommon for women to become content with accepting whatever their spouses are willing to contribute to their marriage. We are afraid that if we speak up we will lose our significant others. The truth is that your self-advocacy might indeed result in the loss of your relationship. But, which would you rather lose, your relationship or your ability to live life according to what you believe is best for you? If you don’t say what you want and mean, you will surely lose the most valuable thing you have…yourself.
6. Don’t care what other people think about your decision to fight for your marriage
The eyes of the world were on Beyonce after the notorious elevator event. It would have been easy for her to focus on what others thought about her and her marriage. But, instead she focused on what she believed was best for her and chose to focus her energy on building a marriage worth fighting for. I am convinced that this was the very moment that “Lemonade” was born. She chose to be the creator of her story and tell it in a way that would bring healing to both her and her relationship.
7. Figure out how you can contribute to building a marriage worth fighting for, but know that it is both of your responsibilities to create it.
In the first picture we see an image of a humbled Jay Z that is literally laying at his wife’s feet. In the second image see a picture from an after party that Beyonce threw for her couple friends following the 2016 VMA’s.
Both images reflect a spouse who recognizes that there is something that both of them need to do to protect and build a healthy marriage. Jay Z demonstrates his need to fully love every inch of his wife, down to the soles of her feet and Beyonce has created a circle of friends who (hopefully) share similar beliefs regarding marriage as she Jay Z. There is no easy way to build a marriage worth fighting for, but when both spouses are engaged the guarantee of success is infinitely higher.
If you believe that you and your spouse desire help with “Building a Marriage Worth Fighting For” feel free to contact Imagine Me Counseling, LLC at 314-744-9027 or www.imaginemecounseling.com for an appointment. Help is literally a click or phone call away.